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Divorce
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An Emotionally-Lessened Divorce
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The decision to end a marriage is not an easy one and it is often accompanied with very negative emotions. The negative emotions associated with divorce often affect the final outcome of settlement negotiations, and more importantly any involved children.
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It is in your best interest to approach divorce from an emotionally-lessened perspective. This allows you to objectively and critically think through a successful settlement. This is thinking is also helpful in assisting your children through this difficult process. Utilization of a third party, for example, an attorney at The Law Offices of Thomas & Associates can help you see your situation critically, clearly, and objectively.
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The following tips, employed by nationally recognized divorce and relationship experts, will help you work toward an emotionally-lessened divorce.
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1. Acceptance
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Do not expect your spouse to change. If you don't accept your spouse for who they are, you will end up frustrated and more likely to continue to contribute to the conflict.
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2. Let go
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Many people refuse to let go of the relationship. For some this is a form of denial. For others, this is a way in which to avoid feeling the negative emotions associated with the dissolution. However, emotions do not go away because they are repressed. Once you allow yourself to experience your emotions, you will be able to let go of them and allow yourself to move on.
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3. It is alright to cry
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Crying is a means of relieving stress. Anger and feelings of hurt drive more behavior than most people will admit. Often, people are unwilling to embrace the extent of their emotions. If you allow yourself to feel emotions, they will quickly run their course and allow you to move on.
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4. Acknowledge your part in the conflict
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Examine your actions. Ignore what the other person is doing or saying and look at your own actions. Are you nagging or being insensitive? Notice how the other person is responding to you. If you can acknowledge how your actions are fueling the conflict, you can minimize the conflict.
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In recent years, more than 60% of California marriages have ended in divorce. Contact us at 877-479-7970, or e-mail us at info@law-thomas.com, to arrange for a confidential complimentary family law consultation.
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Q: What is dissolution of marriage?
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A: Rather than referring to "divorce," California law refers to "dissolution of marriage." Both terms refer to the process by which a marriage between parties is terminated and their respective legal rights and obligations regarding property, child custody, and child and spousal support are determined. There is no fundamental difference between what is called "divorce" in another state and what is called "dissolution of marriage" in California.
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Q: What is a no fault divorce?
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A: Traditionally, divorce was granted on the basis of some marital misconduct such as adultery or physical abuse. In these cases the "guilty" spouse was punished by getting a smaller share of the couple's property or being denied custody of their children while the "innocent" spouse was rewarded for being faithful to the vows of marriage. In a no fault divorce, however, both parties agree that there is no "fault" involved in the grounds for divorce. California is a “no fault” divorce state.
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 Judicial Council and the Administrative Office of the Courts for California
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This site contains forms provided by the Judicial Council and the Administrative Office of the Courts. The forms are provided as Adobe Acrobat documents (PDF). Some can be filled out electronically; all forms may be printed out.
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California Law Search Page Family Law Code
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This site contains California statutes covering all family law cases in California.
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